Everything is better with a buddy– going out to eat, hiking, orgasms. You name it. Pretty much everything is better when you have somebody to do it with.
This is ESPECIALLY true with fitness goals.
Enter the accountabili-buddy. This person is someone who helps keep you accountable. You do the same for them because you’re a good person.
We grow and change our behaviors most effectively in groups. Just look at how well Crossfit(ers) is/are doing.
That said, not just any group will do. Finding the right person(s) to join forces with can be a silver bullet for sustainable fat loss.
For that wonderful life-changing growth to happen, your buddy needs to needs to meet some criteria.
1. We ought to have similar goals
Losing 20 lbs of fat and gaining 20 lbs of muscle are two completely different pursuits.
While the workouts for each goal have some overlap, the nutritional part i.e.the HARD part, is vastly different. That’s not to say a buddy with different goals won’t ever be helpful. However, it’s better when your buddy shares the exact same arduous adventure with you–minutia and all.
2. We ought to be at a similar point in the journey
Maybe they’re a little better at some things. Maybe you’re a little better at other things.
This is ideal.
We don’t want someone who is so advanced we feel intimidated or awkward. We don’t want to feel like we can’t keep up.
We don’t want to be on the other end of that dynamic either. We don’t want to wait for someone to catch up before we can move forward as a team.
It works better when both of us are at the same point in our journey. That way, we can work through the same struggles feeling like equals. We feel safe enough to have some friendly competition.
3. We ought to have something else in common besides fitness goals
Awkward silences aren’t great for building accountability.
We should have something to talk about besides fitness. The stronger the human connection, the more successful we will be.
An important side effect of a good accountabili-buddy is that you start looking forward to going to the gym, hanging with your buddy, and lifting some stuff.
Boring and uncomfortable social situations aren’t exactly conducive to enthusiasm.
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