Excuses aren’t helpful. Agreed? Good.
More important are the reasons we feel inclined to make an excuse.
An excuse is used as a justification for a mistake or imperfection. Excuses seek to lessen blame or judgement.
Considering how fucking judgy the fitness world can be, no wonder it’s riddled with excuses. We hate feeling judged!
If we think we’re going to be judged, an excuse is a rational defense mechanism. We all make excuses for our imperfections, so there will be no high horses allowed.
I don’t fault people for making excuses. That said, if we own the fuck out of our imperfections, we will nurture a greater capacity for growth and behavior change.
The excuses we make to ourselves hold us back the most.
Excuses prevent us from being honest with ourselves.
Self talk matters. When we make excuses, we shirk responsibility.
The missing factor here is acceptance.
We can’t fix our mistakes if we don’t accept the fact that we made them. To move forward we need to be brutally honest.
Excuses are sustain talk– they reinforce our internal status quo.
Taking responsibility and really owning our shit is hard, but it’s challenge worth undertaking.
Reasons, on the other hand, are an analysis. Reasons seek to objectively explain a series of events.
The search for reasons implies acceptance, mindfulness, and assessment. All of which are necessary to overcome our barriers, rather than continue to bash our faces against them.
So how do we turn excuses into reasons?
Build a habit of mindfulness around excuses.
Be on the lookout for excuses. When you notice one, dive into the fear shower and seek out the reasons you made that excuse.
You’re trigger for practicing this habit is guilt. Feelings of guilt usually precede excuses.
If you notice something else that would serve as a more consistent, obvious trigger then by all means use that.
We all have different relationships with food and exercise. I don’t mean to paint this issue as being black and white. My aim is simply to provide a starting point for exploring this relationship.
When you’re trigger happens, tell yourself out loud, “It’s OK”, ideally in the mirror. Next, try to objectively tease out the reasons for the decision in question. A journal where you reflect on your fitness journey can work wonders here.
Note that feelings (guilt, sadness, stress etc) can be objective reasons.
Objective simply means honest. Objective doesn’t mean denying your feelings. It’s actually the opposite. Objectivity means fully embracing and accepting that, “This is how I feel”.
Be brutally honest. It doesn’t matter what the reason is, as long as it’s honest.
“I was tired and didn’t feel like it” is honest. “It’s OK because I went for a run today” isn’t.
If we can remove moral attachment to foods we can lessen food guilt and the ensuing excuses that stand in the way of our fat loss goals.
Another way to combat food guilt and excuses is to join a crew of people you know won’t judge you because they are experiencing the same struggles.
A culture built around growth and acceptance might be the best way conquer this. And I’m not just saying that because I want you to join the Tribe of Badassery Coaching Group. I promise 🙂
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