5 Signs Discipline Is Not Your Problem

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1. You wake up with an alarm

Waking up to an alarm might be the most painful part of the day. When my alarm goes off I shriek like I’m being stabbed in the spleen.

Yet somehow we manage to do this day in day out. It requires a metric shit-ton of discipline to do something that uncomfortable day in day out.

2. You have a consistent job

Staying at a job, especially one you hate, requires an additional shit-ton of discipline. In fact, eating better might be so goddamn hard because you exhaust tons of willpower holding your tongue instead of telling your boss what you really think.

3. You have kids

You don’t need to have kids to know that parenting is TOUGH.

While I don’t have kids. I was one once upon a time.

And I was a little asshole. I can’t even imagine how much discipline is needed to parent the most mellow children, let alone a specimen like myself.

4. You graduated

School is grueling.

If you made it through school, even with all the procrastination, you have demonstrated an immense capacity for persistence and discipline.

Writing tons of papers on topics you may or may not care about is no easy task, my friend.

The option of quitting is always present whether we consider it or not.

5. You’ve stuck with anything for an extended period of time

Fitness people don’t have more or less discipline than anyone else. They just have different habits. Furthermore, it’s what they LIKE to do!

Enter Entrepreneur Gary Vaynerchuck :

“Fitness entrepreneurs want to do the minimal work and still expect a huge return. It’s easy for fitness entrepreneurs to do the push ups, to do the squats and deadlifts because that is exactly what got them to where they are now. They started in fitness and now they want to make money just by having those guns or that body. They default into what is easy without recognizing what is hard: running an actual business.

You know what was hard for me? Waking up early. Not eating what I wanted to eat. Powering through workouts. Yet it was easy to build 50M dollar businesses.”

This is why picking an exercise style you enjoy is the most important factor for success. Consistency trumps everything. Consistency requires the discipline to take things slowly.

When people tell me they need more discipline to get fit, I gently tell them I’m not convinced.

Simply getting through this struggle called life takes discipline.

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While I may not have met you, I know you have demonstrated discipline and persistence in more than a few instances throughout your life.  

Justifications

You’re probably like me. Since you’re reading this I’m guessing you’re somewhat hard on yourself.

I can hear the justifications for why none of these “signs” are a big deal and that you do them because you have to.

Here’s the truth.

You don’t.

You could quit your job.

You could be a shitty parent who isn’t invested in their kids’ well-being.

Even if your parents were “making” you go to school, you could have walked away. Yes, your parents would have been pissed. That doesn’t mean it wasn’t an option.

We always have a choice– Even when there are physical repercussions or risks we still have a choice.

“I can’t steal a car because then I’d go to jail”

That doesn’t stop people from doing it. Legality alone isn’t what’s stopping you becoming a car thief. I’m willing to bet you have other reasons.

I can’t make anybody do anything. And I don’t want to.

Being too positive is delusional. However, us pessimists are dishonest with ourselves too. Excessive negativity perpetuates inaccuracy.

Being gentle with ourselves is about having a more precise, realistic view of how we navigate this shit-storm called life.

It’s about being honest for the things we have done well so we can do more things well.

One aspect of my role in  the Tribe of Badassery Online Coaching Group, is to help the tribe actualize the capacity for persistence they already have. We cultivate a culture of judgement-free self-honesty (read accountability and support) and trust. This means the members of the group can transfer their disciplined nature to their fitness struggles so they can carry groceries up the stairs without feeling out of shape and get rid of the anxiety of wearing a tank top.

Your mission, should you choose to accept it:

  1. Sit down with a piece of paper and pen. Write down at least 5 times you demonstrated discipline and persistence.
  2. For each of those times write out 5 reasons you were able to be disciplined and persistent.
  3. Write out at least 5 reasons why your fitness goal is important to. Try to find every single reason, but write down at least 5.
  4. Brainstorm some ways you could exercise persistence with your fitness goal.
  5. Join my free Facebook group and share your reflections with amazing people who are going through the same struggles as you. Sharing your reflection will help someone be a more awesome version of themselves, but there’s no pressure if you don’t feel comfortable with the idea. Either way, we would love to have you.

 

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http://www.bryankrahn.com/how-to-weight-train-without-getting-hurt/ 

I’m all about not getting hurt. As someone who has had a bunch of unnecessary injuries, I tend to enjoy articles that can help other avoid the same fate or achy shoulders and hips. Strength training can be one of the best things you can do for preventing aches and pains. The caveat is that if you go into it with the wrong mentality, mistakes are much more likely.
http://jillfit.com/2015/09/21/failure/ 

Fear of failure is something we all experience, and it is something that holds all of us back to some extent. I benefitted greatly from reading this post. The author, Jill Coleman, does a great job of conveying perspective and not just providing a laundry list of how to move past fear of failure. 

https://www.girlsgonestrong.com/willpower/ 

Have you ever felt like you failed because you didn’t have enough willpower? If so, this was written directly for you.
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